My mom is at the age where she doesn’t need much in the way of material things. Every year on Mother’s Day, the only thing she would like from me is a phone call. She lives two hours away. No cards, flowers, or anything that “I might waste my money on.” But she never objects to the magnum of wine I bring whenever I come up for a weekend visit.
Mom is in her 80s, so I know the time I have left with her is limited. A few years ago, I sent her a Mother’s Day letter to acknowledge how much I appreciated her. The letter became a list of “gratitudes,” as I called them. Little did I realize how much this letter would mean to her. I included instructions not to open it until Mother’s Day.
Mom, on this Mother’s Day, I want to thank you for giving me life and being a great Mom. I want you to know I am thankful for everything you and Dad gave me, and for what I have now. The older I get, the more I think about the important things you and Dad gave me over the years.
I am grateful
- I am grateful that I grew up in a simple time, before computers, before video games, and before the Internet.
- I am grateful that you gave me a sibling to play with, instead of making me an only child.
- I am grateful that you chose to forgo a career and stayed home to raise your children instead.
- I am grateful that you and Dad made sacrifices for us by not pursuing obscene wealth and material possessions.
- I am grateful for those fun Friday nights when you let us stay up late to watch a movie, with popcorn you popped for us.
- I am grateful that you moved us to a neighborhood full of children to play with. I have a lot of fond memories of our neighborhood.
- I am grateful to you for not showering us with wasteful and unnecessary gifts each Christmas; and for teaching us the real meaning of Christmas.
- I am grateful for the many camping trips we took, as it has instilled in me a love of the outdoors.
- I am grateful that you and Dad trusted us enough to allow us to have motorcycles, and for teaching us to ride safely.
- I am grateful that you let us have a dog, who became an important part of our family.
- I am grateful for the many times we played all those great board games together as a family.
- I am grateful for all the home movies, audio tapes and photos you took, so I can remember the best parts of my childhood.
- I am grateful for all the home-cooked meals you prepared, and all the lunches you packed, especially my favorite hard-boiled egg sandwich.
- I am grateful for the college education you and Dad provided for me.
- I am grateful that whenever I moved to a new place, you would always come to visit and help me get settled.
- I am also grateful that you taught me how to garden; and for all of the perennials you gave me. Every year when they bloom, I think of you.
- I am grateful that you and Dad stayed married to each other for over 52 years.
- I am grateful to you for supporting me in my decision to pursue a Master’s degree.
- I am grateful for all the times we sat in the kitchen and drank wine together.
- I am grateful for my life.
Life has been good to me. I realize I am lucky and blessed to have been born into a loving and caring family. Thank you for everything. Happy Mother’s Day Mom, I love you!
Mom told me that was the best Mother’s Day present she ever received. She said she wants it to be part of her eulogy.
Our moms really don’t want material things for Mother’s Day. They just want to know that they are appreciated.